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How long, per session, do you want sex to last?

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level 1
16 points · 4 years ago

Ideal for me is 20-30 minutes of "foreplay" followed by 3-5 minutes of penetrative sex.

level 2
[deleted]
3 points · 4 years ago

So you don't mind when it's only 3-5 minutes of penetration?

level 3
35 points · 4 years ago

I think she's saying that's ideal for her, actually.

level 3
15 points · 4 years ago

That's what I said, yes.

level 1
16 points · 4 years ago

Until I've had all the orgasms I can or I'm exhausted.

level 1

Less than 20 minutes

level 1
16 points · 4 years ago

The actual PIV bit? Between 2-10 minutes.

level 1
9 points · 4 years ago · edited 4 years ago

Foreplay: 15 minutes+

Actual penetration: 3-10 minutes.

Sometimes it can go on longer... but only the foreplay part. I start to dry out after much more actual penetration.

level 1
5 points · 4 years ago

20-30 minutes is fine. <10 minutes is a bit of a bummer, unless it's supposed to be a quickie.

level 1
[deleted]
11 points · 4 years ago

Danm, girls really like foreplay as much as the internet made be believe. If i may ask, any reason for this? Is it just that you need to get wet, or enjoy foreplay more than sex?

level 2
28 points · 4 years ago

Sex with foreplay = going to a restaurant and being able to enjoy the atmosphere, lighting, good conversation, etc., before slowly digging into a tasty meal at your own pace.

Sex without foreplay = somebody suddenly shoving a burger into your face.

Initiate sex without foreplay at your own peril.

level 3
5 points · 4 years ago

Haha, this is accurate. Surprise burger is good from time to time, but the first option is better in the long run.

level 3
4 points · 4 years ago

I'd still eat the burger. A tasty burger is a tasty burger.

level 4
[deleted]
4 points · 4 years ago

what if your mouth wasn't salivating and you had to eat it dry and couldn't swallow it????

level 2
15 points · 4 years ago

Most women can't orgasm from penetrative sex. So if I want an orgasm, foreplay is necessary. Also, lubrication is a necessity for comfort and preventing injury. Lastly, long periods of PIV (like more than 15 minutes) is just going to lead to pain and soreness.

level 3
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4 points · 4 years ago

To the last part, this I never new untill a few weeks ago. I thought all women could go on for 5x ad much as men. Not untill i read on here that it start to hurt and become sore. I really feel like i learn a lot of sex releated stuff on reddit that porn lies to you about.

level 2
Original Poster3 points · 4 years ago

I'm a guy, I've never had PIV sex. I'm really good at foreplay, though. My tongue and fingers work wonders.

My last relationship was over two years ago...nothing seems to start between me and someone else. Whatever, games and porn.

The purpose of this question was to satiate curiosity.

level 3
[deleted]
2 points · 4 years ago

You got me curious for sure

level 2
[deleted]
1 point · 4 years ago

The longer the foreplay is, the more sensitive and turned on my vagina is. There needs to be bloodflow to the vagina and clitoris for sex to feel good. If I'm not turned on at all, it takes 10-40 minutes of foreplay before my vagina is ready to be pounded and feel good about it. Really good. I like foreplay, but if it goes on long enough I like sex more.

level 1

~3-10 minutes of penetration, with as much foreplay as we have time for.

level 1
[deleted]
4 points · 4 years ago

5-20 minutes for regular sex, with about half of it being penetration (like 3-10 minutes.)

I love a good 3-5 minute quickie, though.

More than a half hour and I'm probably going to be really bored unless we're doing like, DEEP roleplay or something.

level 1
4 points · 4 years ago

10-15 minutes of foreplay, 5 minutes of PIV.

level 1
[deleted]
4 points · 4 years ago

I'd say anywhere from 20-40 minutes of foreplay (though more is gladly welcomed) and then 15 minutes max of actual PIV

level 1

Foreplay: anywhere from 5 minutes to an hour depending on the mood.

Penetration: 10 minutes if it's constant. More if he pauses for a bit to go down on me.

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